How will I choose to live the rest of my life? Can I accept the changes happening in my body? Have I been living, and do I feel alive? Am I confronting the reality that I’m going to die but I don’t know when? What regrets am I holding, and how can I be more true to myself? What do I have to offer others at this point in my life; myself? How should I live now that my children are on their own? How can I accept that I will never have children? What does it mean to grieve for what I’ve lost? These are some of the questions one must begin to come to terms with as one ages.
My own journey into this period of life has been both challenging and fruitful. I’ve noticed that the more I cling to any image I’ve had of myself, the more I’ve suffer. The less willing I am to let go of my identity, of who I feel I was or need to be, the more I suffer. Letting go of unrealistic expectations, of standards I didn’t question for years, has been a relief.
The more I’ve opened to the moment, to the present, the freer I feel in my life. The heart is beyond age and has the capacity to open and grow without limits. It is when we refuse to let go of distractions that we come into suffering. Where there is clinging, there is fear. Fear of letting go, fear of the unknown, fear of death.
I can help you learn to accept and take interest in who you are at this beautiful time. To fully enjoy this moment, you must confront what you no longer need. And you must begin to accept yourself with compassion. My clients find that I welcome all feelings, including grief and loss, anger, loneliness, isolation, joy, sadness, and fear. They find that there can be great relief in opening to all of this, to what we all carry.
What is next for you at this pivotal moment? Time is racing by, and the less we challenge ourselves, the faster it goes. I can help you learn tp embrace what you have and who you are, in a way that can be transformational.
Ultimately, we will have to let go of it all. Why not begin to accept this? Only when we do, do we become free. Why not live this way now?