Couples I work with want to see and feel change, and so do I. I’m clear, challenging, and supportive. I enjoy helping couples move beyond the cycle that keeps them stuck, and into the real issues preventing them from experiencing a more fulfilling relationship. Once a couple is ready to begin settling into the vulnerability of trusting in the relationship, it is possible for the relationship to feel fully alive and safe, even when in conflict.
Most couples wait until it’s too late to come in for help. They think their problem isn’t serious enough, or it feels too vulnerable to ask for help; they put it off. Sadly, nowhere in our culture do we learn how to live in intimate harmony with another person.
Couples find it immensely relieving to learn how to separate enough from each other to feel the spaciousness they’ve been needing, yet maintain close contact with each other. A relationship reaches a higher level when the couple can each express their needs and expect to be heard. The result is increased warmth and closeness.
In relationships lasting longer than six months or a year the sexual energy always changes. This often presents a problem and an opportunity. At this point many relationships break down without ever addressing the true source of the problem. But if you choose to go into the unknown, you may discover the playfulness and availability that a secure and free relationship can provide.
In long-term couples there’s more at stake. You know each other better, and it seems like there is less mystery, yet more vulnerability. Couples interested in breaking through this plateau are often rewarded with increased trust, a new ability to express desire, and the pleasure of receiving what they long for.
Couples therapy is challenging to all couples, but I’ve found that even the most hesitant partner can feel the benefit enough to begin investing in the work. Instead of seeing few options, you now have space enough to begin opening, and to experience the healing power of a thriving relationship.
So much of the work is going courageously towards what’s happened to you in your life as an individual, opening to how it manifests in your relationship, expressing yourself more fully, and engaging from a place of truth. I help couples become conscious of what doesn’t work, and help them begin to live with each other in choice.
I TYPICALLY HELP COUPLES